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March 11, 2019 3:01 pm
On this show, we led off with Paul's exhortation about anxiety. For caregivers, this verse - while admittedly challenging - is particularly important to us in calming ourselves down in the daily grind of caregiving.
"... do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. - Philippians 4:6-7 ESV
And welcome to hope for the caregiver. This is Peter Rosenberger. This is the nation's number one show for the family caregiver for those who are putting themselves between the vulnerable of what it even worse disaster. Maybe you're pushing a wheelchair. Maybe you're staying up late at night with the child with special needs. Having a bad night. Maybe your spending a lot of time back-and-forth the hospital, hospice rehab centers court all kinds of scenarios are affecting those out there who are living with somebody with impairment. How do you help that person. What does it look like what are the needs. How you ask for help if that's where you are honey work up the courage to ask for help and then hope somebody will follow through with it or not mess it up even more. All these things plagued the hearts of those who are putting themselves in the situation day after day after day after day and this show is committed to helping them. This show is committed to strengthening that individual pushing them away from pulling them away from some some very dangerous places and helping them find a better path to safety for themselves sometimes physically safety and certainly spiritually and emotionally. These are not easy things that so many millions and millions of millions of people are living with and we are committed to reaching them with a clear message of help, strength, and point them to Christ in your number to call if that's where you are and you just feel like man nobody understands what's going on with me and nobody gets this.
I am so alone.
Guess what, you're not. 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 Peter Rosenberger bringing three decades of experience on this and I've had a long time to look at this mountain and go down dark past that you don't have to go down, you know you can avoid mistakes, but in order to do that you're going to have to listen to folks who have made those mistakes and find out what went wrong and it avoid making those same decisions. I mean, you know that's that's rebuts my life rather and I've aggregated a lifetime of wisdom that I've received from so many others, and put it in a way that makes sense to family caregivers shows call hope for the caregiver. My book is hope for the caregiver. The website is hope for the caregiver.com. The podcast is free hopefully get it.
It's all there. And what we've done is try to to it a cohesive way offer meaningful task and steps and principles that caregivers can grasp a hold of today.
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Remind yourself of these little things that that will trip you up and hurt you. They really will hurt you talk about isolation of talk about loss of identity or talk about fear. Talk about guilt. Talk about excessive weight gain all the things that affect us as family caregivers in his call seven caregiver landmines and how you can avoid it was all about website, hope for the caregiver.com and list all of Scripture that it's one that you probably can be very, very familiar with. You go to know this and it's going to know you probably recognize the word for quick but I want you to think about it in terms of being a caregiver is Philippians 4627 do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus telling me I should question as a caregiver, how you feel about that verse Alyssa Liska back in the Cisco slowly through each slide.
Do not be anxious about anything, anything, a loved one who was slipping away a child with special needs goes in the seizures on a regular basis. An alcoholic and abusive alcoholic family member with a drug problem.
It says do not be anxious about anything but in everything, and everything means surgery rehab funerals. Everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus for me I just saying for me that's a hard verse because I'm anxious and I'm anxious about anything, I still struggle with all these things and it's hard with prayer and supplication with thanksgiving.
It's hard to do those things when you are dealing with the kind of things we deal with this caregivers and what we have to watch what we have to endure what we have to witness a regular basis, and experience. That's a hard verse and yet there is right there in the text black and white saying this is the path that you flip back over or pulses I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. This is Sangha both versus what is writing the Romans I can do all things when he's writing Philippians he's in. It is in jail is chained up and is towards the end of his ministry yet he said I can do all things we say don't be anxious, saying with prayer and supplication.
Give thanks to God. Can you do that is a caregiver. Can we do that together somebody has gone before us and said yeah you can Scriptures right there saying yeah you can.didn't say is easy but is that she can still together. Friends don't let friends caregiver low. That's what the show is about here on American family radio 888-589-8840 best number to call and let's strengthen each other on this.
Are you anxious about something today that your if you're that's the number to call if you not hang tight look of a difficult double. We gotta reach out to each other. We got strengthen each other, remind each other of these things is funerals were� Hopefully caregiver will be right back.
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It seems of these books at a level of authority and a good example. This is Paul's own letters. When Paul wrote he wrote with the authority of an apostle in authority and apostles when it speaks for Jesus and so he spoke in his writings with the highest possible authority. You could speak with you speaking in one sense the words of God to people and people receive that as such they were to obey Paul's letters. They were to follow his letters, as is the words of Christ. They were to read Paul's letters publicly so the idea that these books started off just as occasional letters are historical documents and that only slowly gradually over time and again authority of Scripture. I don't think is borne out by the struggle evidence. The evidence indicates of the authors in your writing Scripture in the early church received the Scripture from a very early time.
Visit the God who speaks.org is 589-8840 Delamere should question what is secure with caregiver somebody who puts themselves knowingly, willingly and regularly between somebody with any kind of impairment and even worse disaster. Now that impairment may be in a wheelchair that impairment may be dealing with alcohol is it's it's it it may be dealing with addiction it may be dealing with all kinds of things. It could be Alzheimer's, stroke, traumatic brain injuries idled there so many different scenarios. But whatever the impairment there's a caregiver somewhere around and that's what this shows for and you are you you are if you try to do this by yourself.
It's only going to make it harder. The goal is to not do this alone, not try to white knuckle and if you can. If you can hang on to that concept and realize that it's okay to talk to someone else. It's okay to reach out about your own needs about your own issues then we are.
We are making real progress at that point because that's that's what it looks like to go through this together. 888-589-8840.
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He did that the these folks said they knew Paul knew at the time that he was writing under the tutelage of the Holy Spirit that this was Scripture as he was writing it, and those of the Scriptures. Of those, the right some of the writings we did the first segment talk about what Paul said in Philippians.
Do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. As Paul wrote those things, and most likely he probably dictated, he knew this was Scripture. This was Holy Spirit breathed into man. I'm sorry but there were in my apologies. That was a small segment from our study called the God who speaks the God who speaks yeah it's a production of American family Studios and is available@afastore.net C give you everything on one stop shopping right here is you are well. Everyone that that was just so timely because we were just told by that.
The first segment right and these are not just nice words, Paul wrote he knew this was Scripture.
He knew this was Holy Spirit inspired and therefore it carries far more weight than just somebody's opinion, this is Scripture and you can count on this and so if you're if you're reading this verse do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God that one of the reasons the Holy Spirit is putting that in their is because God knows that were anxious about everything but now there's the path there's the path and we don't were not in bondage to that we don't have to be in that we can have peace. The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding. Now think about what he saying there, the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding other words, what have peace.
We just cannot comprehend and you understand that in a situation like were in his caregivers that that peace is elusive. It is hard to find.
It is, it is hard to find.
It is, it is truly elusive and if we are not constantly re-re-focusing our mind on this will stay in a state of turmoil and as a caregiver.
You understand that don't you get that level of turmoil. This is no way to live this torturous is that I know this audit we bid we been doing this now on American family radio for many months and I know the calls that we get it.
I know the heartache I see the emails that I I constantly get and the terminal that's that's that's heavy on us his caregivers. We just don't know where to go, we don't know what to do and and I can't map out your next five years. A morning map out mine. But what we can do is reinforce with each other. Basic principles and sometimes it comes up something very simple like do the next right thing.
The next right thing.
Severe listing right now I'm struggling you're just thinking of Peter used understand well first off, I do understand, but number one number two if you I don't know what to do.
I don't know what got what's the next right thing and it will get. We may have to micromanage all the way down to maybe the next right thing is for you to take a nap and just that's it, just turn it off and take a nap. Maybe the next right thing is for you just to have a quiet but was soup. Maybe the next right thing for you to do is turn off the television and just sit and be still for a moment. Maybe the next right thing for you is to walk around the block and just got air out. These are things that we did. This is the way we do it. I'd love to tell you that there was some kind of you notes six-point planted whatever that there's there's not there's boiling it down to its absolute core. The next right thing may just be for you to drink a cold glass of water and not try to talk right now to a level that is just making you nuts. I was listen somebody of the day the talking to a family member with that slowly start to have dementia and they're trying to reason with them.
They're trying to reason with dementia is that he wasn't even look like my wife is missing both legs. How do I tell her ankle on her prosthetic leg to move normally.
It can't, it is inanimate. It will not do. It looks like it ankle place of an ankle, but it's not an ankle. It is a prosthetic device. I cannot tell it or or commanded or in any way engage it to do anything other than what it is built to do or is capable of doing dementias the same way how you argue with diabetes, you can't. So why would you argue with dementia.
Why would you argue with impairment. Why would you argue with somebody who is under the influence of alcoholism or drug anything chronic disease of addiction. You don't argue with addiction do the next right thing, which may mean to detach yourself from that so that you're not getting pulled into these loops all the time. Let's go to Genentech's gene of good morning how you doing on adult.
I hope we don't lose you either on multiple levels, so be careful. How can you to turn your radio down little bit okay I guess it's a little bit of an that's not what's on your heart.
Okay, but I wanted the land here talking about caregiving and Belgrade high, you are really glad to take your Matter at that before he died he Went 90 K without the right of every car and mom has been a real welded belt hello how five but we probably okay out that that wasn't blanking.
We I thoroughly enjoy and unite content that can't break it you know how to stop that growing up so we rely know about after he died a year later college a little care and yelled pastoring and without any way year after we bear a daughter and her husband and five children that that delay farming we drop by now what I want caregiver. We have been caregivers are no that's not her all that he had a home. I look back now and looking to rent that by another breaking the Lord led us through which he yelled out higher. And yet okay, like you agree with that. Not really. You know it's got similar principles, but caregiving is when you are in the throes of it every day. You may have some of the principles but felt that she live with you. Are you responsible for her now know you do breakout for you do things for her.
You check on her neck and stuff, but ultimately you're not really responsible for her. You're not. You're not in a situation where you have to do this every day. This is something you do not just the love of your heart, which is great but what what you did with your mother. It what your mother's doing it. What you do with your mother was far different and that this woman is as an adult who has some troubles. She has some needs and you guys are be in there like the body of Christ doing that the kind of thing, but at the same time. You're not responsible for her and you're not having to carry this sheet you're choosing to bear one another's burdens.
In that sense, but she is not a a a family member or spouse or things such as that were your this is this is your responsibility and if you're not there. She's at a look.
That's it.
She's sheet is that it's going to go over the cliff kind of thing that's that's the kind of folks are looking for on this, but at the same time, the principal still do apply there.
Always apply to you. You guys can use everything that were talked about in the situation with this girl because she still traumatized. She still wound which is not dependent upon you. At least I hope not yet probably have most year now that I don't believe her life. I've been here and what does it it there's no doubt that she's she's wounded on this. Is she impaired. Now coming she's not she's not. She's not physically. She's mostly traumatized by what happened and I get that but she's not impair then the people most the people that are functioning as caregivers did was somebody was impairment weathers age-related disease related or trauma related and and it's prohibited and it's not necessary to get better in her case she is obviously better and she's moving through that but Gina just reflects your heart reflects your husband's heart that you guys are modeling what it says to bear one another's burdens, and Esther Stossel and thank you for that and I do appreciate very much the call.
I really do it. I think you Lena. Now I want to be careful while you're driving. Okay so for caregivers about triggers hosted by caregiver. This is hope for the caregiver on American family radio. I am Peter Rosenberger bringing you 3+ decades of experience as a caregiver to help you stay strong and healthy as you care for someone who's not. And that is the definition of a caregiver is like a less colorful about yeah we will alongside some folks we may function as a with caregiver principles you know blood people by Cardwell of a parent that means I'm a caregiver will not really the caregiver somebody who is knowingly and willingly, and daily and regularly putting themselves into somebody with impairment and even worse disaster. Children are are vulnerable, but they're not necessary. Impaired. They are growing and they're going to get better grandchildren the same way. If you have a professional carpet cleaner on retainer, you're probably a caregiver. That's an old joke at 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 is the number to call if you want to be on the show but was seven caregiver landmines is the book you can get it wherever books are sold. Certain of all the dot-coms like Amazon so forth. 888-589-8040 some phone number and a hope for the caregiver.com is the website and you are welcome to produce for the show of the Facebook is hope for the caregiver on Facebook original like a page and share it.
The podcast you can set up for its free. I put the show out there put different clips of the show, and special features that we do as well as different songs of music. Whatever from gracing you hear from grace in the next segment of in between the exhibit on her ad for staining with hope, which is the minister Sheena Fallon many years ago would she give up both of her legs and she wanted to give prosthetic legs to her fellow amputees as a way of sharing the gospel we been doing that now for 14 years. As of this month. 14 years in the West African country of Ghana and patients come from as far away as Nigeria to this clinic where we work. We partner with the government of God over there and they go walking and leaping and praising God. We do this several ways.
One of them is we collect used prosthetic limbs from all of the countries if you know somebody who's passed away her or child is outgrown a leg, don't throw it away. We will take it go to standing with.com and click on forces prosthetic donated you slim it goes to a local president, Tennessee were inmates volunteer to disassemble that so we can recycle the parts of it like the screws. The adapters the connectors the defeat the pylons the knees, all those kinds of things it can be recycled and they will ship all that along with purchased items which I just purchased this week from other prosthetics supply manufacturers like pylons that are longer.
We don't always get enough of those in so we need to percent of purchases or resin so that we can make a brand-new socket for the patient. Right there on site and they did they get a brand-new leg custom fit leg same quality same style the grace yourself where she's is a look him up in the leg of some, but I'm not willing to wear and they go walking and leaping and praising God.
It's really a remarkable ministry and you could be a part of that with two program areas. It stayed with hope for the wounded and those who care for them and this shows the second program. The first one is the prosthetic limb went you know if you ever want to give somebody give gift that keeps on walking. This is it steady with.com and your your help makes it all possible.
But take a look today standing without.com. I lets get to Martha in Tennessee Martha good morning how you feel and out. I am alarmed.
Here on the left. They can wound up in the hospital and also in rehab. So I'm home again with Libby to go back Martha, how are you feeling I might leader Scripture.
Do not be anxious about anything, say it with me. Do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and supplication with what in your heart. Thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. All right that's out with Ella, and I don't mean this really goes when we get to say that to ourselves about 100,000 times.
I know about my hundred thousand and 12 tub.
That's just from this morning, but WW tell me what's going on with you listlessly what we could do together.
You know anything else I want to thank you for this program because encouragement is beyond words and and I think are for caring is important work that you are getting together and I just first of all have to be thankful for you all and I am want to know and found a private plane are not located make a difference. I really like that that we were glad to hear that Martha because I we do put a lot of thought into how do we want to do this in with the song selection everything so I really am glad to hear that the that it's connecting with you because all of this is intentional and we can hear it in your voice a little bit right now that your your struggling with us� Go ahead, but thank you for those comments.
Well, I don't have to work and live my life will I get in line because I am to out right now that I will get things right.
I think that it was cremated. I think it is. I think that's a good good place to stay.
You don't Martha I see things around my own place and that if a caregiver's frazzled. I guarantee that houses a dummy that was just be blunt here and I have found that sometimes it just gets overwhelming to look at all the things that have to be done and so what you do is you you boil it down to something you can do right now.
Sometimes just a matter of disclaiming the microwave. You know you get one test done okay. I clean the microwave and and give yourself and at at a girl for that and and then do the next task that's in your hand to do but I do martial arts.
Martha, I will effectively going to teach a class right after the show and the I'm 2nd� black belt. You've heard of show enough of me that's that's what I am not obscure but it's but what about things. My instructor tells me is fight what's closest fight what's closest so if you got an enemy or opponent 100 yards away and you get what is 5 yards away fight the war.
That's 5 yards away that still that the summers of one of the one that closes what she does it with a needle have to worry about the wonders for others to take it. So whatever is close to your hand to do do that, but don't try to take on the whole world. The whole house every room of the house.
Everything that needs to be done. You can't, you're not living a normal life you're taking care of your husband says you're not living a normal life. Or you could just give yourself the luxury of of being a flurry of activity of doing all these tasks because you you can be interrupted at a moments notice and were in stop and go traffic is caregivers.
Rarely do we get out on the interstate and let this thing get wide open. Rarely, we just don't get the cruise put on cruise control. Very often, so we were in stop and go traffic on a regular basis and we quit fighting it and we just deal with the next right thing.
What's what's at your what's what's something you can do this morning that you can say okay up and I did that this magical day that could be completed this morning on me like you said, it may be just something as simple as cleaning the microwave you. Your intimacy might bite my wife has an a grade in the last coast of Texas right but my wife is a great aunt lives out in and out Loxahatchee Texas and she is just a delight. I just love her to pieces. Her name is Lila and I just love her and I hear her voice in my head because she's to tell this to Gracie all the time when she would grace we got visitor which is a little girl and now and and I still talk to it.
Lila periodically but but I still hear my head at night I click try to clean the kitchen before I go to bed every night because nobody was to walk up to messy kitchen and so what outlet is sometimes as late at night. I'm looking at the kitchen thinking I'm just it, level of disconnect the support you to the feet, but I still sometimes will punch through it and go ahead and get it all nice and clean and I'm so glad I did. The next morning when I come out in the kitchens clean and sometimes it's that level of personal victory of something of accomplishment that I did okay. That made my life a little bit better punch through for an extra 10 minutes got it all cleaned up. You know, and there's a great deal of satisfaction of coming out the morning and not seeing just kitchen in disarray and I know that sells elementary and sells kind of basic and little bit embarrassingly simple but when you deal with the kind of things we deal with this caregivers. Those moments of feeling like we did this we got this done. Don't underestimate how important those are to us is Just a little thing Martha. We got a quick break with list.
Thank you for calling and thinking just sharing your heart and thanks for the list are to be alone this journey with us and very grateful for your and if you would be on the show.
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Now here on hope for the caregiver on AFR. Thank you for that Jim and I do appreciate that it and that yes we will be seeing that. But it's you know, there are certain things that we just have to look at in order to effectively go out and start speaking life to our culture because our culture so obsessed with death, and I appreciate for support and AFA supporting that that movie.
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Hope for the caregiver.com and Jim, let's go to Nancy. Nancy from Ohio Nancy from Ohio morning I Nancy hey field leader. It is not I'm I'm fine physically but not only my heart is hurting. I have been listening to your show for over two years and it is one the most wonderful, thought-provoking and inspirational. Charlotte ever and I just want to say thank you you are unlike you have got to get good advice to caregiver and will many very much for that helped me yet from a kind. You have helped me as I listen to you on Saturday morning. I have been a caregiver for three individuals for the last two years I moved from Oklahoma to Ohio back to my home place to care for my mother who had at the beginning stages of dementia and I also took care of my 94 year old uncle and my husband was dying with heart disease all at the same time I had like an energy I was able to take care of each one of them every day and I think I'm pretty energy that I have to do that now, bringing you up to date. Each one has passed away within the last two years my husband nine months ago and my mother just a week ago she was 100 and Tom.
The problem that had a red and is my mother had five children and time when I was with her. She would say to me on a daily basis. I had time. The anesthetic he had me find my well and now everything is equal between you children I have distributed everything equally while mom would say that to me as I would take care of her and the next minute. Of course she would not be talking quite right. But anyway, the day before she passed away in half bath. My brother came and then I love my brother Gary like that he came kilogram and he said that the will is laying on the windowsill.
We had asked my my credit sisters had asked for the well for years and he would never bring it forth.
He's at PLA so I took it home and read it and when I read it I just about lost it because in the well. It stated that everything was given to my younger sister including the farm and cleaning all the farmland that they bank accounts the home which is separate but she rents out and I was just a little mortified have a bad attitude about this. What you think I need a psychologist as the Lord of Willis.
Let's go with the letter first. Yes, you always need the Lord of list go back to our Scripture. Do not be anxious about anything but in everything, including wills that get messed up by prayer and supplication.
Let your thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God of it. We gotta go back to the text on this, however, that doesn't mean you don't take action that just means that you don't go rushing in and waving a sword and start just beat people over the head with stuff you need to go at this matter-of-factly. How does your brother feel about this. I have three brothers and curator Prater are they feel exactly the way I do. They're just mortified that there are farmers and so that it does your sister yes me, does your sister know this all this going on at yeah she got now because I became emotionally sat and I told her how I about it. Did she influence your mother to read the will know she actually is a pot that she does everything the end of credit that can kill us a little. So why would your mother leave everything to the sister than because my brother told me that because mom lived in Patty's house that she deserved to have everything signed.
I was so confused because mom said everything is divided equally now on. My mother was blind and she couldn't even hardly write her name. My brother put the paper in front of her hand and put the pen in her hand and brother dad plaintiff, with all the returning how to handle this idea of the attorney. We have called attorneys and the bottom of the well says it cannot be contested only lose everything that was written. The brother had that put Candace brother had that put in the well will I would I would probably still seek legal advice on this.
There's a service that I use. You can see that by hope for the caregiver.com page where it's very affordable. Legal advice but it's I would seek legal advice of what you can and cannot do and I think that you don't need to do this alone. You should not be leading the charge by yourself on this one because you have two other brothers that are just as upset if you are and where sister had now we had our family and we are at camp my my mother played piano for many churches all her life and we are to have a race to be a Christian in a Christian family, and we had a nap and we quite enjoyed each other off six children. 1.daughter died one of her daughter.
But anyway, we would like to enjoy each others preference and now we aren't even speaking to each other and just break my heart and I guess I feel like will all the first half and now my heart is just ripped the first things that I want to manifest, the principal will the ball I get that there's nothing but there's nothing like this kind of stuff to really split up the family and this is well received. First things first sit down with the brothers that are upset about this and then lay out a strategy of what you guys want to do about and then let's maybe you could dig a little deeper and find out why this other brother just put everything in the sister's name versus it himself well here at PLA housing. I think he basically wants to buy the farm from her will and that's fine that if he buys the farm from her then work about with your sister to do whatever he pays for the farm. You don't think be split among the family.
Whatever I don't know there's a lot of different ways you could do this but it sounds like you and your other two brothers need to sit down and have a frank discussion about what are your options and I don't know that I wouldn't. I think before use. Just throw up your hands and say you know we can't contest the will. What I do.
I would really really really encourage you to seek legal guidance on this okay and and it's available out there and this is probably my my my brother didn't think attorney and they said when they render well. This is broad will. Okay it's one thing to give a dollar. They claim the dollar and everybody had a dirty joke that we should frame our dollar and I we offset what we had an even received a dollar from my mother and I let you know I was just as much a kid he will if your mother had.
If your mother had to mention she was blind when she said it again seek legal help if you've already got at least one attorney saying this is fraud. It's not enough to say it's fraud that you need to act on it and it may mean pushing it extremely hard against this one brother who has the POA. It may mean that, but don't try to do this by yourself. You have two other brothers and the three of you along with sound legal advice may be able to make some headway in this that may fracture the relationship, but the relations already fractured and you know MME to my friend Abby to make calls subsume significant damage to Russia but that's already happened anyway so I don't know that you have a whole lot to lose by seeking strong legal advice on what you can do about this and you know it just it just reinforces on why we do the show because these are the kind of things. It just ripped families apart and it's not enough to go through the death and the funeral and all that kind of stuff but then you gotta go through this whole mess of the families coming to the odds to blows over this emotional blow, sometimes physical, so please get sound legal advice on this.
And don't just throw in the towel and say okay this is done with it.
There's there's more that can be done on this out. I believe I will try to squeeze in one real real real quick here.
Jim, Kathy, North Carolina.
Let's see caregiver to mom and brother, Kathy, good morning how you feeling I'm sorry to give you such a short about a time, but how you feeling well I got my brother was in the hospital I had to take care of him had take care of my mother ended up taking on our friends who had a major strike and a few weeks ago if I called you then I would break down and that's okay. By the way, you're welcome to call the breakdown of the show low, sadly, are so male replicas of clock real quick real quick 10 seconds care of my family and the end the week it was 15 much well you know what he may not understand. He may not like he may not be happy with. That's okay he's just going to have to get happy to say she's a guest said Maddie because you're going to have to detach from that and do the next right thing for you and your family and that's all you can do will talk about this more next week.
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